My Journey
"I was lost in a series of patterns unable to see my full potential".
"I had become disconnected from what really mattered in life. To be authentic, honest and vulnerable".
"I knew at this point change had to happen! Enough was enough!"
RECLAIM YOUR SOVEREIGNTY
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Alexander Cottle is a leading voice in modern men’s work and the founder of The Unmasked Man. Known for his embodied, heart-led approach, he brings together over a decade of experience in somatic shadow work, Eastern philosophy, counselling, yoga, and meditation. His work is rooted in helping men move from the mind into the heart - from performance into presence.
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Alexander specialises in teaching the embodied side of shadow work, guiding men to meet and integrate the parts of themselves they’ve hidden, suppressed, or feared. Through his grounded, compassionate facilitation, he’s supported hundreds of men to release shame, reclaim their power, and step into mature masculinity.
He is recognised for the depth and safety he creates — spaces where men can unravel, remember, and rebuild. His work is not about surface-level change. It’s about deep, embodied transformation that stays with you for life.
My Story
My Offerings
My story began with pain.
Not the kind you can push through, the kind that stops everything.
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In 2015, I was rushed to Mount Sinai Hospital in New York after suffering a TIA stroke. I was 27 years old. Lying in that hospital bed, staring at the ceiling, I remember thinking, “How is this happening? I’m too young for this.”
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Years of overworking, performing, and chasing success had finally caught up with me. On the outside, I had everything, the partner, the money, the rising career. But inside, I was numb. Disconnected. Slowly dying behind the mask.
That moment cracked me open.
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What followed was a life-altering descent into the depths of my own soul. It was uncomfortable, disorienting, and at times terrifying, taking me across continents, through ceremonies, initiations, and deep inner work. Along the way, I found practices that helped me come home to myself: yoga, meditation, plant medicine, breath, truth, brotherhood. I began to feel again. To trust again. To live from something real. And I made a promise that I would alchemise my pain into purpose.
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In 2018, I founded The Unmasked Man, a movement dedicated to guiding men back to the truth of who they are. Since then, I’ve supported hundreds of men around the world through retreats, 1:1 coaching, and initiatory spaces. I’ve walked beside entrepreneurs, creatives, fathers, and sons - helping them remember what lives beneath the mask.
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I specialise in working with high-achieving men.
I know the drive. I know the ambition. And I know the shadow that comes with it — burnout, disconnection, isolation, the slow loss of self beneath the image of success. I work with men who are outwardly accomplished but inwardly exhausted. Men who are ready to trade performance for presence, and control for truth. This is where the real work begins.
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My approach is rooted in somatic shadow work, masculine archetypal psychology, and grounded spiritual practice. I help men move from boy psychology into mature, embodied leadership. We work with the body. We work with the heart. We work with the truth that’s been buried underneath the armour.
This is not about fixing you. It’s about guiding you back to the man you were always meant to be.
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If something in you knows it’s time, I invite you to step forward.
Let’s begin.
Alexander