My Story
Alexander Cottle
TIME TO RISE. TIME TO LIVE.
MEN'S TRANSFORMATIONAL COACH
IT'S TIME TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH...
I’m going to be honest with you, because the only way we do this work is through truth.
You’ve spent your life being the good man. The agreeable one. The one who keeps the peace, even when it costs you your truth. But deep down, you know something’s missing.
You weren’t born to be liked, you were born to lead. To speak truth even when your voice shakes. To hold your ground even when it terrifies you. You’ve learned to perform, to please, to stay safe, but that’s not freedom, it’s self-abandonment. The world doesn’t need more nice guys. It needs embodied men, rooted, raw, and real. Men who lead with presence, not perfection.
This will be hard work. It will ask you to look at yourself more deeply than you ever have before. It will require honesty, responsibility, and the courage to face the parts of you you’ve spent years avoiding. That’s what this work is. I don’t offer quick fixes — I hold a mirror, a map, and a fire. And if something in your chest is burning as you read this… then you’ve come to the right place.
I specialise in working with high-achieving men.
I know the drive. I know the ambition. And I know the shadow that comes with it - burnout, disconnection, isolation, the slow loss of self beneath the image of success. I work with men who are outwardly accomplished but inwardly exhausted. Men who are ready to trade performance for presence, and control for truth. To take the beautiful journey from head to heart. This is where the real work begins.
TRANSFORMATION & LEADERSHIP
My Offerings
Work with me 1:1. I offer 3, 6, and 12 month coaching journeys for men ready to do the deep work and to grow, lead, and live with more truth, integrity, and presence.
A personal journey, where we walk side by side and dive into the heart of what’s really holding you back.
An 8-month, multi-layered training programme to support you on your journey towards becoming a men’s work facilitator.
There is a growing demand in our society for male role models that embody healthy masculine virtues. Join our container as I help you rise into your leadership.
Work with me 1:1 in my most personal offering - a bespoke retreat tailored just for you. Or join a small group on one of our Unmasked spiritual Journeys, held in Thailand and Morocco.
Alongside these are our core LVL 1 & LVL 2 Unmasked Man retreats, where this work begins in brotherhood.
HOW DO I WORK
I work by guiding men into the parts of themselves they’ve spent years avoiding - the shadow.
The shadow is everything you’ve suppressed to be accepted: your anger, your grief, your desire, your fear, your truth. It’s the stories you never told, the emotions you numb, the parts of you you’ve deemed unacceptable, even to yourself. As a somatic shadow work practitioner, I don’t just work with your mind - I work with your body and your spirit. Because your body remembers what your mind has learned to hide, and your spirit knows what you came here to reclaim.
We slow down. We breathe. We feel what’s underneath the performance and 'the mask'. Through somatic release, breathwork, embodiment, and archetypal work, I guide you to meet what you’ve exiled - not to fix you, but to bring you back into wholeness.
This is not mindset work. This is soul work. Rooted in the body. Anchored in truth.
Because when you finally face what you’ve been running from… you begin to remember who you are - and, most importantly, what your spirit came here to become.
THE FORGOTTEN BOY
There’s a boy inside you who learned to disconnect just to survive.
Somewhere along the way, having emotions was not allowed. Needs became dangerous. So he shut down. He became silent. Strong. Capable. He wore the mask and played the role. But that boy never left. He lives in the tightness in your chest, the rage beneath your smile, the loneliness behind your success.
Reparenting the inner boy isn’t about fixing him, it’s about turning toward him with truth and compassion. It’s about becoming the man he always needed: the one who listens, who protects, who stays.
This is the heart of my work. I guide men from boy psychology into man psychology, from reactivity to responsibility and from performance to presence.
THE CHANGE
Testimonials
Lee Fuller
"Alexander changed my life in and I don’t say that lightly. I was able to cut away the shackles of my past, own my insecurities and get crystal clear on exactly what I want out of life moving forward. I made more progress In the 12 week course than I have in many years of self development up to that point. Alexander is phenomenal at what he does and cannot recommend him and the unmasked man highly enough. The best money I have ever spent on myself.
Adil Hussain
"Alexander changed my life.
I've been coached by Alexander now for almost 2 years and he's changed my life.
His guidance and full presence, coupled with his knowledge and expertise has been pivotal for the development of my personal life and my career as a coach.
I cannot recommend this man enough"
James Ainsworth
One of the best things I have done in the last 5 years. Very highly recommend Alexander and this incredible course.
One of the biggest things was it helped me uncover my purpose. This is huge as I have never been so clear as I am now.
Alexander is an awesome guy and gives you all the space you need to speak out about your problems and overcome them. He accepts every part of you.
Thank you, Alexander, for everything."